What is most meaningful to me in my life? Right now?
Creativity
Beauty
Nature
Seeing
Art
Travel
Discovery
Learning
Connection
Helping
Love
I think that looks good. It is a start, plus I can imagine where all the many subsets of things that I adore fit into these blocked out categories (food is creativity to me, reading is discovery as well as learning). Best not to over think, especially, certainly when these are what I hope to base the next chapter of my life upon. What kind of alchemy will be required to make a path out of this I have no idea but for now I am gathering the ingredients with intention. And yes, I realize well that a lot of these items are already present in my day to day.
My instinct tells me that gratitude provides the force of a common denominator, un lien. “How can that be?” you might wonder, lips pursed. “How can appreciating what is bring about what is not yet present?” It is a good question but I will just give you the annoyingly vague, redhead mystical answer that I am “going on a hunch.”
Whatever gets you through, n’est-ce pas?
And gratitude, at least using it in an active not platitudinal sense, has been a key element of just that during these past seven months. I have several practical posts that I have been preparing regarding the backbones of this Project of Me but that same subtle voice suggested that I throw this one out en plus, hoping that it will roll out like a stone skipping across the water, “just in case.” Someone might need this today.
When I first arrived back in the States in March, I remember blinking through my jet lag under the harsh lights of the pharmacy. I was torn about whether or not to spend the money – less than $5 but I have to be that careful these days – on pens plus a black and white composition book that could fit in the palm of my hand. Through my haze, I remembered back to a bad depression in my 20s when, despite so much promise glowing nearly visibly, I had to make a list of all that I was grateful for to get me moving in the mornings. I knew that the same practice would be a wire to hold onto while walking forward through the dark times ahead. And it has been. Everyday I scribble out a list of ten things that I am grateful for; it takes me less than a minute. Simple but truly effective.
I just picked up that notebook and dared to read backwards for the first time since I started it. It gives my heart balance to see that, yes, there is a progression. Here are a few examples starting from mid-March to present…
“I’m breathing”
“the baby bird on the roof”
“Hot tea”
“a comfortable bed”
“Family”
“Ellie, friends near and far”
“my old posts on the blog”
“feta cheese”
“That I am ok with the quiet today”
“the crickets song”
“A sense of home in my heart”
“That hate isn’t winning”
“getting better”
“meditation”
“Feeling safe”
“stars”
“tears”
“unconditional love of dogs”
“my senses working”
“Learning”
and from my last list:
“Feeling whole”
“optimism”
So, with the insistence of a missionary I am going to yet again invoke psychologist, author and meditation teacher Tara Brach, who, in the podcast that I was listening to this morning called “Happiness for No Reason, Part Two” (I also highly recommend Part One) talked her listeners through a small exercise of whispering out loud to finish the phrase…”I am grateful for…” and then feeling how the answer lands or resonates within us before asking it again. It felt lovely to do, a bit like unspooling a prayer or building a safe place to wait out a storm, such as the husk of the local barns.
So what do you think, do you want to try it? It’s ok if you feel foolish, I bet most people do. This is just something that you are doing for yourself anyway. This may be stating the obvious but I could feel my responses warming up my heart with a quite comforting song.
Do you feel like sharing what came up for you? It is more than ok if you don’t, it is just a thought.
Thank goodness that we are all in this together. I intend to keep saying it because there is no day when that idea isn’t needed. You all mean more to me than you can ever possibly know. The love that I feel for you (and receive from you) helps me to love better in my life.
With much gratitude (je suis désolée mais c’est vrai),
Heather
Aha! So I have something in common with Oprah? Well, I am rather chuffed about that!
Yes, expectations are so tricky aren't they? Mine have been lowered to non-existant, not a good thing either. So I suppose the trick is finding balance…
I felt that I was right there with you seeing these elements Lorrie. xo
All such good things, Ali.
Leslie, I am sorry to hear that you went through a depression but am very glad that it is behind you now. Gratitude is such a simple and powerful tool.
It is so lovely what you wrote about a beacon of hope!
It is funny in Michigan, Yvonne. I keep hearing "Oh no, not yet!" for autumn. Yes, it is here…
Thank you for your list, Judith.
Hey Heather……
I am grateful for my ability to adapt,for my inquisitive nature, and I am grateful to be able to find solutions to difficult problems. It's not very glamorous or romantic, but it is enough
and I am grateful to be enough.
Well okay come to think of it I'm also grateful I've finally finished tiling my kitchen backsplash. I hand painted one hundred and eighty six ties. rented a tile cutter, cut each one, palm sanded each one, primed each one, painted each one, installed them all , grouted the lot, sealed it all. pheww!
Oh and humour, I'm especially grateful for humour.
Love Bernadette
So thank you dear Heather for this post.
I'm not sure if that last bit was gratitude or a rant, but i am grateful to get that off my chest.
I hope that whatever you are going through has a happy ending. I love your photos- they are so real!
It is so easy to forget all the good things in one's life when one is going through difficult times, either physical or emotional. I am grateful that I am alive and able to wake up every morning to a beautiful day, whether the sun is shining or there is mist over the hills. I am grateful that I have enough to eat, that I have wonderful children, and most of all a partner who understands and loves me unconditionally. Thank you for making me think about all these things.
Oh, you are a pleasure. Love your photos. Thank you for reminding me to be grateful. Yes, in the darkest of night, it is my way of getting to the light. Thank you. You are a pleasure.
Gratitude and the practice of is such a game changer! It enhances …everything! While I don't faithfully keep a gratitude journal, it is part of my daily meditation.
So happy to see you moving forward on the path, Heather!
Thank you for your beautiful words and pics. Love these red barns! Mwahs, T xx